All too often we hear self-professed "Nice Guys" complaining about why they can't get a date, and whining that
women just want to date jerks, etc. etc. The truth of the matter is that there are genuinely caring, compassionate, decent,
fun guys out there who have NO TROUBLE meeting people, getting dates, and having relationships.
Unfortunately, many of the guys who DO have trouble, insist that women don't want them because they are "too Nice". These people who
call themselves "Nice Guys" can't see that THEIR OWN behavior is the problem. That behavior either drives women away or attracts the WORST kind of predator - one who is manipulative
and self-serving. Whether it is targeting women who are troubled to begin with, setting themselves up to be taken advantage of,
or acting in a manipulative, patronizing or obsequious fashion, these guys sabotage themselves and often blame "all women"
for their misfortunes.
This section is devoted to the guys who suffer from that self-professed "Nice Guy" affliction. Here is the place to find out why
YOUR behavior isn't as "Nice" as you think it is...
Required Reading:
The Difference Between Being Nice and Being Kind
When is a "Nice Guy" a LOSER?
Nice Guys We Can Do Without
Sensitive Guy? - Another comic takes aim at the Sensitive Nice Guy.
NiceGuy/Asshole - Different Sides of the Same Coin? - Mithrandir comments on a segment of the readership that fails to answer the clue phone.
John Scalzi's Incomplete Guide to Not Creeping"
Other contributed Rants:
Letter From a Reformed "Nice Guy"
Lisa has had direct experience with Not-So-Nice "Nice Guys"
Steven has Yet Another Guy's take on "Nice Guys"
Momo is of the opinion that Jerks Are Often The Lesser of The Two Evils
Sensitive Guy? - Another comic takes aim at the Sensitive Nice Guy.
Something Positive - A great take on the "Nice Guy" dilemma.
What is Misogyny? - Jim provides some perspective on why some "Nice Guys" aren't so nice...
Dave Understands why women don't find a man who Feels Sorry For Himself terribly attractive.
JC posits why he thinks Women Don't Want Nice Guys
Natalie has fun (with a few choice comments from Jade) with a Walking Stereotype who calls himself a "Nice Guy".
Jade dissects Steve's assertions in The Nice Guy's Dilemma
Fabulana uses some HBI correspondence to demonstrate "Why I Hate Nurturing Guys"
The Myth of the Sensitive New Age Nice Guy
"REAL Nice Guys Don't Finish Last" - A guy on Nice Guys
Why Amy Doesn't Date "Nice Guys"
Why Nice Guys are Boring and Jerks are Interesting
The Man With No Spine - (A Parable for "Nice Guys")
10 Reasons Women Date Jerks instead of Nice Guys
Of course, all these articles generate a ton of "comments"...
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