Suzanne
I love it. If being independent and in control of my life and unwilling to put up with idiots makes me a Heartless Bitch, then I'll wear that shoe.
I can't stand the little twig girls that spend the whole evening in the bar checking out the guys and ignoring their friends. I can't stand it that they use their sexuality to get what they think is "love." Hey, sex is great. I like sex. If you want to have sex left, right and sideways, have at it - but have it because you LIKE to, don't be ashamed of it, and find your self-worth elsewhere. It makes it really, really hard to hate all the guys sitting round laughing about how easy you are and how they bent you around like a Gumby toy, and I really want to hate them, too.
I can't stand women who repeatedly date losers and then whine about how they can't find a "decent" man. Honey, you have a brain -- use it to figure out why you keep finding yourself in this situation and CHANGE it!
I can't stand women who compromise their dreams with life choices and then think it's too late to catch up -- if you made the decision to stay home and raise children, fine, good on you - but don't gripe about how you wanted to be a doctor. Go learn how to be a doctor.
Oh when I think about all the time and energy I've wasted on toxic people and toxic relationships... What I've come to is this: I want to be happy. I want peace in my life. I want to be that funny old lady in the big house at the end of the street that wears silly hats and can astound you for hours with stories of her adventures throughout her life, and she's still going.
I'm going to summarily squash anyone that threatens my peace. Life it hard and sometimes it sucks, but my God, it's a gift. I don't like drama. I've finally learned the "red flags" that surround us all the time - friendships, relationships, work... If you threaten this wonderful peace I have, I will walk away. No drama, no fits, I am simply done with you.
I fall down sometimes, I make mistakes. But they are MY mistakes. I can't regret them, only learn my lessons and move forwards - nobody else can do that for me.
I'm a good person (well, most of the time). I have great friends. A fantastic job. I travel. I even found love, long after I gave up on it - know what he loves about me? My strength!
I won't be pigeon-holed. If I'm feeling cute and want to dress up, don't assume I'm a little princess. If I'm feeling intellectual, don't assume I'm a geek. I'm a full grown woman and I'll live as I please, striving every day to be the best person I can and to live a peaceful, happy life... Don't try to mess with that!
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