Sheila
I'm not in high school anymore - I really don't care if people think
being intelligent isn't attractive. My sharp and critical brain has
taken me farther and made me happier than being 'cool' ever could have.
If I know the right answer, I speak up. If that makes people insecure,
that isn't my problem. But, even when I adopt a certain point of view, I
know the journey isn't over; I always have to keep thinking about why I
feel the way I do, and nothing is black and white.
The man I love is smart too - I wouldn't have settled for anything less.
He says that the reason why he never had trouble relating to women was
that he always treated them like the fellow human beings they are (and
people wonder why I married him when I was 22). We are equal partners in
our marriage; the support (and constructive criticism) flows both ways.
Together we've worked hard to create the life we have. We didn't have
any fairy-tale ideas about what marriage would be like, and we didn't
rush into having children right away because it was "the thing to do."
Even now, I feel like I could be a good parent, but will not let
reproduction be my sole reason for existence. If kids are in the cards
for me, great, but I'll be damned if I let them define who I am. I don't
let my husband do that, and he's been in the picture much longer than
any kids I will have.
Are you bitter that you don't have it as good as my husband and I do? Do
you think we're just lucky? Don't insult us! We worked our asses off for
this, and had our fair share of troubles, just like everyone else. We
just dealt with things, and never let our problems get in the way of
making good choices.
Do people who wallow in their issues realize that if everyone in the
world thought and behaved the way they did, nothing would ever get done?
Civilization would screech to a halt! If there's one thing I've learned,
it is to take control of your life, and stop blaming your mistakes on
people who wronged you or things that happened to you, because in the
grand scheme of things, no one cares. It's just that simple.
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