Abby
I'm a Heartless Bitch because not that long ago I learned that true independence is the only way to find happiness. I realized I could not rely on others to make me happy--I had to make myself happy. I learned to comfort myself and tell myself that I could do anything I wanted, on my own and without any help. I learned to show myself what I was made of.
I'm a Heartless Bitch because I refuse to be an enabler for the self-sabotaging behavior of myself or anyone I know. I will no longer sugarcoat any situation to try to make myself or anyone else feel better. The truth may sometimes be ugly, it may sometimes hurt, it may sometimes not be what we want to hear, but it is the only thing that will help us let go and move on.
Remember Labyrinth? The film where The Goblin King kidnaps the main character's baby brother and she is forced to try to solve the Labyrinth to get him back? Sarah, the main character, finally breaks the spell by telling The Goblin King "you have no power over me." This might seem like a silly example but it helps me get through difficult moments when people piss me off or my situation seems to be wearing me down. I just repeat that phrase, "you have no power over me," and I remember that I am the one in charge of my feelings. No one else can "make me" do or feel anything. They can't change my mind for me. They can't make me miserable.
I am the only one who can be in control of me, my actions and my feelings.
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