Mindy
As a woman who has been financially self-supporting for 28 years, the
mother of 2 (now) grown kids and a grateful single person after 2
dysfunctional marriages, the lessons have been clearly presented. Poor
choices I made in my 20's opened my eyes and empowered me to change my
attitude from a self-depreciating-people-pleaser to Bitch-with-Guts. I
made and stuck by the conviction to be true to myself and give others
the same benefit, whether it's what they want to hear or not.
I no longer place so much value on material objects. I came to realize
I'd much rather be in my gratifying career than banging down the bucks
in my old miserable situation. The same holds true with relationships.
Why would I dare sacrifice emotional heath and well being to live in the
neatly fitting mold of someone else's expectations? Certain sacrifices
are unavoidable. Steering away from my own core beliefs and values
doesn't qualify this category. I choose to be upfront with what I want
and need. Achieving this by depending on someone else to supply it, or
skirting those desires only to become what I refer to as a "professional
malcontent" (You know... 24/7 moaning, whining, always blaming... it's a
full-time job with no reward, monetary or otherwise) is clearly not an
option for me.
Now that I've managed to ace Run-On-Sentences 101, I'll sum it up. I
stand up and say it, mean it and above all, DO it. To remain free and
independent, open to think on my own two feet brings much more
fulfillment than any outside bargaining chip. The word no is simple and
easy to use.
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