Chandra
I was raised under the "appearance is everything" system of beliefs. I
was taught to always look my best and act properly. For years I
struggled with this, but I did my best to comply. Most of my life I made
decisions based on how few other people I would hurt rather than how I
would help myself. I'd always believed that if you're going to value
someone's opinion, make sure they have what you want and are willing to
show you how to get it yourself.
I ended my unhappy marriage and moved away from my hometown. Of course,
I am now the black sheep of the family, but I'm a better person and a
better parent for it. My ex and I are best friends and our children's
teachers tell us that we joint parent better than most married couples.
When it comes to divorce, you have to love your kids more than you hate
your ex. Too many people forget that.
I have taken control of my life and have never been happier. I have good
friends and date frequently, but I have no designs on any romantic
relationship anytime soon. I have other priorities to take care of
first. My parents (got to love them) keep telling me I need to settle
down and find a wealthy, stable man to take care of me. However, my body
is wholly mine, and it's not for rent, sale or lease for any price at
any time. If I choose a partner later in life, he will be just that... a
partner. I don't want a caregiver or a little boy I have to take care
of. I already have two kids to raise. I don't need to lift my skirt for
every Tom, Dick and Horny that smiles at me to give value to my
existence.
My life has not been an easy one, but whose has? I accept that my life
is a direct result of the choices I've made and now I do what I can with
the consequences of those choices. I do my best to learn from my
mistakes and not repeat destructive patterns or expose myself to
destructive people (even if they are family.) I am not perfect and I
still have skeletons in my closet to deal with, but now I'm doing it on
my terms.
I tend to intimidate people with my straight forwardness now. If you
piss me off, you'll hear about it and then you'll see me walk away. I
won't waste my time on anything that doesn't better my life, my
children's lives, or me. I am not cruel and am willing to help those who
help themselves, but have no sympathy or compassion for the whiners and
victims of the world.
I am called a bitch quite a bit, usually because I've bruised some
Neanderthal's ego or gave a truthful answer to a woman fishing for
compliments when I didn't have one to give. I believe that everyone
needs to be responsible for his or her own self-esteem and happiness.
It's not my job to do it for them.
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