Rhonda
I am educated with books. I am wise with experience. I am not angry or hostile about things that have happened to me in life itself, or in past relationships and dating experiences (and, believe me, I've had some pretty crazy ones!). I don't complain about negativity. Instead, I use the information to influence my life in a positive way. I don't hate people who are malicious with intent. Instead, I just move it right along and opt to be surrounded by positive thinkers.
The word "heartless" is subjective, and can be used in a number of different ways. I use the term to describe how I've learned to not "hear" what is said, but to "see/experience" what is being said. This has been called "Game recognizes game!" Some old phrases still ring true: Actions speak louder than words. I am not an emotional moron. I am not lead by my emotions--rather I am lead by my good sense and my free will to exercise intelligent application.
The word "bitch" is also subjective. In my case, it is in the way that I go about my life. Why complain about that which can be eliminated...or changed? All it takes is a few problem-solving skills! (Oops, we don't all have those skills, now do we?) Why "rant" and rave when you can use that spare time to reflect, analyze and think of ways to improve and build self-worth? (Or, if you're not up to that, do something constructive...go read a good book for heaven's sake!) Therefore, people who lack understanding of this insight tend to view me as being a bitch. So be it.
A relationship is relatively easy: It involves two people who are positively influenced by the other; who can be the strength of the weakest links of the other; who can admire, love and respect each other privately; and who agree to each others terms in the relationship and live by them. If you don't have this, you don't have a relationship. The sooner you realize this about your potential mate, the faster you can be stress and drama free...moreover, HAPPY.
Understanding that relationships don't validate you or dictate self-worth seems to be the hard part. For me, knowing that I am an individual and (even with my flaws) I am validated. My self-worth is acquired by the difficult task of reaching goals, sticking to self-propelled deadlines and meeting my own damned standards! That's hard enough for a few of us!
To sum it simply: I am comfortable with myself, others, and life itself. All the other shit is irrelevant.
Yes, I believe I would make a wonderful addition to your "Heartless Bitch" list! Let's make it official!
Yes! I want to read more from Real Life Heartless Bitches
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