Miko
I grew up, like most girls in America, with the notion that computers,
video games, and martial arts, among other things, were boy things to
do. That never stopped me. I've taken various forms of karate and kung
fu since I was seven, I was playing with my first Amiga at five, and I'm
currently majoring in Computer Science to satisfy the curiousity that
Nintendo sparked in my mind all those years ago. And while the main
"girl" interest that seemed to be implanted into my head was of course,
boys, I never seemed to place their opinions above my own.
And that is exactly the way it should be: a free democracy of
relationship systems, where I have my interests and you have yours and
if we like each other enough, we can try to have a relationship
together. Why should I have to quit college for that? Why can't I still
do my artwork, and practice my kung fu? There isn't a single logical
reason why not, and that's why I've never put a relationship above where
I'm going in life.
Not that, of course, when I am in love I won't skip out on something or
other just to delve deeper into the other person's personality (or
heaven forbid, do something physical with him; as if that's a sin for
women to enjoy). But I would expect the same out of him. If not, then
the relationship isn't as serious as I thought. Which is not a problem
either, but honestly, there's no point in putting myself out for
nothing. I expect an equal relationship, with equal giving.
In the world today, however, women aren't supposed to want that. Women
are apparently supposed to give of themselves, and wonder why they are
taken advantage of. Fuck that. I give plenty of myself, but I expect it
back. And if I don't get it back, then I made a judgement error,
obviously. Why women in general feel this way (and even go to the
extremes of fighting with other women over it) is a mystery to me, but
one that I want to do my part to solve.
I'm not perfect, and I'm not the best at any of the things I'm
interested in, but I try to let other girls know through my own actions
that they are not limited in their choices of lifestyle. Am I angry at
society? Yes, but I don't let it get to me. I'd rather try to make a
positive influence by showing that a girl doesn't have to be a rag doll
to be happy and successful. She can just be herself.
Yes! I want to read more from Real Life Heartless Bitches
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