Michelle
I am a Heartless Bitch because I believe that every person is responsible for
his or her own successes and failures. It's not fate, or karma, or cosmic
forces that will determine whether or not you meet your goals, and it's not the
responsibility of the other souls that cross your path or share your bed. I
have never, and will never use my looks, my gender, or my significant other to
achieve the goals I have set for myself, nor will I leave it to dumb luck. I
much prefer to use my intellect and the skills that I have gathered while
PLANNING for my success. I worked hard to maintain an almost perfect grade
point average in high school and college, and to acquire the skills that are
needed for my chosen profession. I don't need luck, religion, a relationship,
or a hand out to insure my success. I have a PLAN for it.
I realize that being heartless is not the same as being rude or thoughtless.
Were I to possess those traits, I would be better qualified as an "ill-bred
bitch." While rudeness is sometimes unavoidable, unwarranted rudeness only
makes it harder to be taken seriously as a mature, intelligent individual. It
bothers me that so many women seem to think that in order to be a "Heartless
Bitch", you must openly ridicule the idea politeness, and all but crucify any
man that dares attempt to show chivalry toward you. Personally, I never turn
down a well-intentioned gesture of chivalry. From my point of view, I work very
hard to be a respectable person, and there is absolutely no reason for me to
turn down a show of the respect that I feel I am due. Provided, of course, that
I am allowed to return the favor and show respect for those of either gender
that I feel have earned it.
I'm not just a Heartless Bitch during social interactions, but in romantic
relationships as well. I was taught from an early age that despite all the
media, literature, and societal wisdom to the contrary, a woman does not have to
have and unfulfilling life merely because she is not in a relationship. I
firmly believe that it would be better for every young woman to have lived on
her own and established a career before she becomes involved in a serious
relationship. It's tragic and unnecessary for any woman to feel as if she is
stuck in a relationship because she lacks the economic skills to survive on her
own. I also believe that a relationship should be a balanced partnership, and I
fail to see how a woman who lacks the skills to provide for herself could be an
equal contributing partner. I'm not afraid to do half the work in a
relationship, and I'm not interested in dating anyone who isn't willing to do
his half. Over the course of my dating life so far, I have identified some of
my emotional needs that MUST be met for a relationship to be fulfilling for me,
and I'm not willing to compromise those needs in order to have a temporary bed
warmer.
I will end my manifesto now before I get carried away. I thank you for your
time, and hope that I will be considered for Heartless Bitch status.
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