Lynn
I believe this is my life, to live as I choose. I'm not here to meet someone's
approval, satisfy their curiosity, comply with their demands, or make anyone,
aside from myself, "happy." There are three phrases most likely to ensure
someone's speedy reaquaintance with my front door:
FIRST - "I'd do it for you."
No. You'd do it for you. Even if you didn't
want to do it, and did it anyhow, you'd be doing it for you because you think it
will achieve your objectives in terms of our interaction. Don't be a martyr: I
have a stake, lighter fluid and a match.
SECOND - "If you really loved (cared for, respected, etc...) me you'd do it."
No. If I really loved (etc...) you, I would behave like I do when I love
someone. Since that is what I'm already doing, clearly we are a mismatch
because you aren't willing to accept that as adequate to your needs. I happen
to believe that love is intrinsically a choice - it cannot be earned or
purchased. If paying dues is what the relationship is about for you, I'd like to
know exactly how much it's going to cost me before you feel like it's "enough"
for you.
... so I can laugh.
THIRD - "You have a problem with anger."
Nope. I have no problem with anger. When I feel it I admit it to myself. I
process through it until I have some idea why I'm experiencing that emotional
reaction. Then, if I so choose, I articulate it clearly to the source without
wreaking bodily or environmental damage or raising my voice over 85 decibels. If
there is a problem here with anger, I suggest you look in the mirror.
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