Julie
I'm a Heartless Bitch because over the years I've realized that no one's
opinion of me is as important as my own.
When I was in high school, after the movie "Steel Magnolias" came out,
my friends took to calling me by the nickname Ouiser (Weeza) after the
character played by Shirley MacLaine. I've come to think of that
nickname with pride now that I look back on it, because the character in
the movie always spoke her mind and didn't give a damn what others
thought.
I've been taking care of myself since about the age of 16 after my
mother's death. I moved out on my own at 18, paid my way through
undergraduate and graduate school, and have proven to myself that I can
survive any challenge. I'm now happily married, but my husband has
learned that I will not budge on issues that are important to me.
I despise the false niceties that seem to be required in today's society
and wonder why I'm supposed to feel sympathy for those I read about in
the newspaper who have lost loved ones. People die -- some after long
lives, some after short lives, but death is a fact of life. I will
always miss my mother, but I don't want pity from anyone nor will I give
it out.
I'm also a Heartless Bitch because I've made the decision never to have
children regardless of what society says is required of me. There's no
fucking way that I'm subscribing to the stay-at-home mom with two kids
and one car, one SUV, house in the suburbs, bullshit. And fuck those
parents who say, "my kid will cure cancer." Why didn't they have any
purpose for themselves rather than pushing their goals onto their
offspring? I knew even as a child I wasn't cut out for motherhood and
intend to keep that promise to myself. I have more important goals in my
life than spending it raising someone else.
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