Jodie
"Heartless Bitch" has long been yet another turn of phrase thrown at me to illicit a reaction. "Frigid." "Butch." "Gee, aren't you all just sugar and spice?"
If you let such things affect your life then they have the desired consequence - "Back down bitch. Crawl back into the little box we've made for you."
So pick one as a cry to rally. When I hear "you're such a bitch" then I know I'm there. The elusive "they" have no other tool, no other weapon, to wield against someone that relishes and rallies to what they've assumed is such a horrible invective.
It can be used in everyday conversation: "you'll think I'm a Heartless Bitch - but, frankly, it appears to me as 'you just being stupid again.'"
It can be used in management: "Yes I'm a bitch - but I've still made a decision and that's the way it is going to happen."
It can be used in relationships: "Ok, so that makes me a bitch. It's still your turn to assume the 'equal partnership' part of this thing, remember?"
The instant one brings it out and uses it to defuse the attack, the battle is won.
I mean, hey, I'm not *really* heartless. Show me why I should care and I'm there. Just give me a reason or two and show me why you're deserving of my empathy and I'll be there. If you're Dealing With It and are in a moment where a little support makes a difference - count me in. I may have a momentary weakness and find solace in a friend myself. If it's a habitual thing I'll lose interest in about ten seco... - what was I saying again?
What is my definition of a Heartless Bitch? It's as varied as the number of times that expression as been hurled and I've smiled and agreed.
I think the most recent example was probably in response to a looong drawn out debate on "reality is absolute" - half a dozen morons arguing for "it's all just a matter of perception."
I'll leave you with my ultimate response after a full day of that hogwash -
I've just about given up on this topic. So I'll just address the last few points.
Here comes the most extreme test of the absolute of reality.
Those of you that don't buy into it - "hey, it's all just perception", right? Perform this experiment on your way home, to, whatever.
Make sure you're alone in the vehicle - this only works if no innocents are involved. It's a special observation for you alone.
As you're driving along, search for a bridge abutment, stanchion, support, what-have...
When you find it, I want you to accelerate (hey - acceleration, vectors, whatever - they don't exist anyway, right?) - and I want you to "ram" into "it" as fast and as hard as you possibly can.
Hey, as long as you don't PERCEIVE it to be a problem, it's NOT, right?
That experiment is a very harsh but lasting proof of the absolutes of reality. Please do write back and let us know that I'm totally wrong, ok? (but only after having confirmed first-hand that I am).
Yes! I want to read more from Real Life Heartless Bitches
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