Carolyn
I'm a Heartless Bitch because I refuse to play the pity game. I am tired of people who complain about their lot in life. It's the people for whom any problem in their lives, even if caused by their actions, is reason for special treatment in their lives.
Some stay in a bad relationship, about which they complain. Upon leaving said relationship, they will immediately enter another one almost indistinguishable from the first. They are to be pitied for being such martyrs. They don't get what they want from the relationships but the lo-o-ove the other party. It's not their fault for falling for someone who's all wrong. I'm heartless if I let them know that sometimes I fall for someone all wrong for me too, but I don't act on it. I wait until I find someone I can fall for who won't use me and who has some personal responsibility.
Some have (usually minor) health problems they use as an excuse not to take responsibility in life. They can't work at all, they can't support themselves, and so on. Of course, I'm heartless if I cry "bullshit" when the claim a condition I've had since childhood is _always_ disabling (news to me, I work full-time, enjoy some active hobbies, and otherwise get on with my life)
Then there are the people with "issues" they're working on. The ones who think that they should be treated with kid gloves because of their bad histories. I'm sorry, I must be heartless, but although I wish them well in their recovery, I don't feel the need to play therapist.
I'm a Heartless Bitch because I don't think religious opinions are special and beyond criticism. If your religion tells you something, I am allowed to disagree, and I am allowed to think it's stupid. God didn't come down and tell me that your interpretation of Her/His will is correct, so don't expect me to behave as if She/He did. Just because your behavior is religiously based doesn't mean if can't hurt someone.
I'm a Heartless Bitch because I take responsibility for myself and my choices, and expect others to do the same. I've said and done things that I regret, and I admit that I was wrong. If I've hurt people, I've tried to make up for it when I could. If nothing else could be done, I've tried to make sure I would never make the same mistakes and given an honest apology. I don't think that absolves me from blame.
I'm a Heartless Bitch because I can separate my respect for a person from my agreement with their position. Many other people think I am angry with them when I disagree with their position on an issue. I am not, I am just outlining why I rejected their position and chose my own. Because I'm a woman, some men think I am calling them stupid if I disagree with their stance on an issue. Stupid Mars and Venus books make them think I am looking for validation. Validating my opinion doesn't resolve the issue! I want to know what point of fact or what moral choice we disagree on!
I also might well be a Heartless Bitch because I've really enjoyed reading over your site. I don't agree with what everyone has written, but it has been great to read honest opinions based on reasoning rather than societal memes and knee-jerk reactions.
Yes! I want to read more from Real Life Heartless Bitches
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