The only person in this world I have the power to change is myself.

I accept responsibility for that.

I'm not interested in changing anyone else, or in being changed by anyone else.

My problems are just that - mine. They were caused by me, and they will be solved by me. If I feel that I need a bit of help, I will ask for it. Otherwise, leave it in my capable hands and back off.

Others' problems are just that - their problems. They created them, they can solve them or not solve them, as it pleases them.

I accept responsibility for my emotions. Nobody *makes* me feel angry, or sad, or irritated. I do that to myself, because nobody else has that much power over my feelings.

I don't play mind games. I don't expect you to guess how I'm feeling - I will tell you. You can do whatever you want to do with that information. My emotions are not your responsibility - you didn't cause them and I don't expect you to fix them.

By the same token, *your* emotions are not *my* responsibility. I didn't *make* you sad. I didn't *make* you angry. You did that all on your own. If you want to change how you're feeling, then go right ahead - but don't bring me into it, as if I have the power to change you. I wouldn't change you even if I could. That's *your* job.

*My* job is to work on improving myself - and I don't need your help or your advice to do that.

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