I've been called a bitch for so long that I've given up caring whether
I'm a bitch or not. I'm at a point in my life where I don't want to
subscribe anymore to the role I'm supposed to play as a woman, even if
it means that everyone will like me. I'm not referring to some sort of
rebellious phase, more like a realization that I can't make everyone
happy...so it's time to make myself happy. I'm a Heartless Bitch
because if you're getting on my nerves, you've got it coming. I think
it's a hell of a lot more humane to tell someone in very candid terms
exactly what they're doing that pisses you off, rather than talking
about them behind their back for weeks like some people's so-called "friends".
I'm a
Heartless Bitch because I'm strong, assertive, and aggressive--because
last time I saw a guy call his girlfriend a bitch on the street (while
she bowed her head and stared at the ground), by the time I got through
talking to him, he KNEW who the bitch was. I think he probably had a
pretty explicit definition of who HE is, now, too.
I don't think
that being a Heartless Bitch necessarily means going off on people--it
means expressing your opinion without being worried about coming across
as "mean". It's not about that Spice Girl crap, either. It's about
defining yourself as a woman--I can't believe that after all of these
years of men defining women's roles, now we do it to ourselves--we've
turned against ourselves and made all of these definitions of what it
means to be feminist. My friends are so scared of the term feminist
because of this stereotype. Maybe one of these days people will
understand that I like to fuck a guy as much as the next person, just
because I'm a feminist doesn't mean I suddenly can't stand the opposite
gender and I'm a lesbian.
And to take that a step further, maybe someday
the word "lesbian" won't be connoted with such negativity, either.
I
read your mail from men page...and I'm glad that you've posted it. Not
to touch the man-hating vein...but if every male out there who "just
couldn't understand" what males do that females get so pissed about
could read this page, maybe they'd understand...
Yes! I want to read more from Real Life Heartless Bitches
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