I believe that the only people who truly deserve respect are the ones who have it for themselves. There are numerous people out there, both male and female, who try to exchange "favors" (i.e. sex or money) for respect. It is rather unenlightened of them to believe that respect can be bought in this way. Respect, like love, can only be freely given, and it will only be given to those who demand it and will not accept anything less. The people who have the strength required to demand respect from others are the ones who have enough self-confidence to first respect themselves. I believe I am one of these people. I might be seen as a Heartless Bitch by some because a woman who is assertive (but not aggressive), confident and an independent thinker defies the social norm of what a woman "should" be. A woman who demands respect is not "normal" because in our society women are generally though of as undeserving of respect.

My first and only boyfriend (hopefully to be my husband when we have both finished our master's degrees) is also the first and only man to meet my extremely high standards in a boyfriend. Equality and mutual respect are necessities in a relationship for me. He is the first man that I have found with whom we could share both of those. We work as a team, there are no "roles" in our relationship. For example, we do dishes with one of us washing and one drying, we cook meals together, and we share all other household duties. He also has a lot of respect for my intelligence, and he truly loves my independent mind and self-confidence. I am very lucky to have found a man like him; they are definitely a rarity. And I would have never settled for less. If I didn't have him I would have stayed single for life rather than lower my standards.

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