Why should I be a member of Heartless-Bitches.com? Experience. Plenty of experience.
I am not a militant feminist, nor a bleeding heart helpless female. I'm
kinda stuck in the middle, shaking my head at the crazy behavior of men
and women alike. I don't hate men, but they sure can piss me off. And I
don't hate women, but they sure make me feel ashamed to be one
sometimes.
As I see it, there are two kinds of "bitches". "Heartless
bitches" like us are empowered women. "Bitches" in the other context are
horrible manipulative women with fangs and claws who are ready to stab
you in the back and take advantage of the emotional weaklings. Becoming
a Heartless Bitch has been a slow evolvement for me. I grew up in a very
alcoholic male dominated household with a mother kowtowing to my
father's every mood. I always had the subliminal message that women
needed men to get along in this world. Who's gonna fix the car? Mow the
lawn? Bring home the bacon? Fight off the bad guys? I used to think like
my mom thought. Now I know the REAL answer! ME!
There was the day when I
used to wonder if I would ever have a boyfriend, or if HE WOULD CALL. I
mean, gee, he said he WOULD, after he hurriedly put on his clothes and
made mad dash for the door....... Well, I'm divorced five years now
after a seven year marriage and experienced the horrors of the dating
scene (including online relationships). I have learned more about myself
and the world in general in that five years than I have in a lifetime.
I'm not bitter, just cynical in a healthy way. When I got divorced, I
left with what I came with. I didn't ask for anything. I had only a few
things to get started. My husband kept the house and most of the
monetary items we had collected together. I just wasn't interested in
taking from him, because basically I don't believe in it. I started my
life over with just my determination to succeed ON MY OWN. And I have
done it. Everything I have, I have earned myself. I am independent and
self supporting. I take responsibility for my actions and always keep a
level head. I am IN CONTROL.
I have a hard time trying to understand
women, in that they stay in unhealthy relationships and let themselves
and their children endure domestic violence. I suppose it's their
business if they like getting beat up, but when it comes to the kids, I
have a hard time supporting any woman's excuse why she put up with the
bastard. Especially when there are so many social programs for battered
women. Divorce laws favor women, and I hate the women that take
advantage of them. Sure, there are some men who are true CADS and
probably deserve everything they get thrown at them. But I seem to know
more women that have let men take care of them most of their lives, and
then when the divorce comes, it's easier for them to take the poor guy
to the cleaners, rather than actually go out and learn something and GET
SOME JOB SKILLS for god's sake.
Men.......well, they piss me off, but
amuse me as well. Some are so lame, I can only laugh. Guys that think
pick up lines actually WORK. Guys that blame everything they don't like
about women on PMS. Why is it that guys can get ANGRY and have a bad
day, but when women show a little anger they instantly become "bitches"?
Men that think a cut bod and a Corvette will get the chick of their
dreams, but while admiring themselves at the gym, they forget to work
out their most important muscle....their brain! These men deserve the
empty headed supermodels they aspire to date, but I sure dread the day
they start to reproduce. I stay the hell away from the bodybuilder
types. They are so in love with themselves they don't have time for
anyone else. It is my idea that they reduce a little of the muscle bulk
and work on some flexibility exercises so they can suck their own cock;
it sure would get them out of my hair to do it for them.
Why is it that
if you are witty, attractive and engaging, that you are "leading them
on"? Since when does being "fun to be with" mean, "I want sex now?" Why is
it that when you keep up intellectually with a man or are more
successful career or monetarily, that most contact stops? Then when you
press for a reason, you get some version of, "Well, you are so strong
and independent, I just don't think there is room for me in your
life...." Translated: "I'm an insecure pansy-ass guy who needs a
brainless woman so that I can feel like the superior being that I am."
I
have found that the internet and the online dating scene is an EXCELLENT
weeder of Cads. I can count on the fingers of one hand any guy who can
type, spell, and have something other than cybersex on their minds.
Damn, flaming is fun! It used to be (and still kinda is) that any guy
sitting behind his computer on a Friday or Saturday night (or women for
that matter) had to pretty much be a complete loser to "approach" women
online. Nowadays there are plenty of eligibles who use the computer for
their social scene. I am one of them. I have so much the advantage that
way, drawing them into my "lair" and seeing if they pass the
intellectual test! If you're savvy enough, you can pick out the
liars immediately. It's easy and FUN!
It's almost a little sad really,
that we have to use the tag, "Heartless Bitch" to describe us. We aren't
heartless......just because we don't choose to subscribe to the notion
and tradition that women should be the
behind-the-scenes-quiet-little-nurturers-here's-your-beer-honey type
doesn't make us heartless at all, just strong, productive, level-headed
members of society. If people perceive us as "heartless", well, it's
just their problem! I wish there could be a Heartless Bitch movement in
Afghanistan. They need one. The Taliban is just as deplorable as Nazism.
Women have to be covered head to toe because MEN CAN'T CONTROL
THEMSELVES. Who's the weaker sex? One wonders.
Yes! I want to read more from Real Life Heartless Bitches
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