Tracey
I don't get weak in the knees when I see babies, hear sappy songs, or go to weddings. I don't think everything has a happy ending, and everyone has a soul mate out there. I am not waiting for my *prince * to awake me with *true loves kiss*.. GAG.
I choose to make choices with my head, and not my heart.. my heart already has a full time job. Its purpose is not to make life decisions, it tends to make bad ones based on emotions. The heart when acting ALONE does not see *red flags* that my mind needs to see in order to make good choices.
I'm not against love, men, puppy dogs, and rainbows. I am against making choices in desperation, loneliness and horniness (is that a word?)
Since I have changed my thinking, guys seem to come out of the woodwork.
I tend to hear this a lot (when someone is trying to convince me to give them a *shot* ), "You have just been hurt, and you are jaded, you just aren't open for love". Oh, bite me! That's just not true. I was hurt because I made bad choices, I'm not jaded, I'm not angry, I just choose to make different choices, and that includes not buying everything you say because you are in *sniff mode* and are challenged by a girl who says NO.
I love my life and I love my career. I have to laugh when someone wants to fix me up and I say I'm not interested. They say "don't worry, you will find the right guy someday". Why is that the prize? I am more concerned with finding out what my true calling is in LIFE, that may or may NOT include a partner. My life is complete, I am not a 1/2 in search of the other 1/2.
I think it is about not buying into everything I hear that gives me "warm fuzzies" . I don't want to hear the *right* words, I want the TRUTH so I can make an informed decision. I have realized that ALL princes have skidmarks in their tights....some just hide them better.
I think it applies to everything in life, not only men, but that seems to be the first place the heart tries to fight for *final cut*. SO that is where I am most cautious.
I read this site a few years ago, and I thought to myself, "I wish I was like these ladies", I remember downloading quotes from this site and reading them to myself and telling myself I can change my life and recreate myself. When I came across this site tonight, I realized how far I have come in last 2 years , I am NOW a Heartless Bitch... and it all started with 2 little words.. "GET OUT" .. after that everything else became clear. It didn't happen overnight, but it happened and I have never been happier.
Being a Heartless Bitch is about saying *goodbye* to fantasy, saying *hello* to reality. It is about saying NO to something that is bad for me when my heart screams YES. I make decisions about my life as an adult, not as a child who wants everything they see and doesn't care about consequences. It is about taking my heart off of eBay and putting it in a safe where it belongs. It's not up for bid, it's not on display, it's not to be walked on, or used as a pin cushion. I use my head to make decisions and my heart to pump blood, it just seems to work best that way!
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