Sam
I work in a male-dominated workplace. I am not intimidated by older white men that used to expect me to fuss over them and act like their mom. It used to bother them that I never said "I'm sorry" when something beyond my control happened or when someone else screwed up. Women that are constantly apologizing make me ill. Seriously, how many men apologize for another's mistake? None that possess a pair of balls! I'm just Bitchy enough to be the only woman in a meeting of 5-8 men that doesn't pretend to be their secretary. Of course, in the beginning they used to ask me to fetch them something like water or make copies. It wasn't deliberate always, but I know I was always asked because I was female. I always refused (nicely and professionally) by suggesting I was finishing something or saying I did it last time. They got the hint and don't ask anymore. I'm respected for my skills and my work ethic, not my dress or flirtatiousness. I've never dated anyone I worked with either. My career and education is my main priority.
I'm also childfree. I like children, just don't desire any of my own. Unfortunately, women have been programmed to believe that the most important job a woman will ever have is to raise children. What is with this belief that we can never accomplish anything more important than that? Why do so many people suck at raising productive functional citizens if this is such a priority? My parents were abusive alcoholics. I've battled addiction and have been sober for 7 years. Why the hell is it selfish of me to not want to inflict that on children, or worse continue the cycle by possibly inflicting fucked up children on society? Oh yeah, its rational and logical and goes against the societal norm. We reward women that consciously fuck up their lives by getting pregnant young or by losers.
These are comments I overheard to a pregnant 19 year-old that just broke up with her drug addicted, unemployed boyfriend. "Of course having a baby might fix all of your boyfriends problems." "He will be so excited about becoming a father, I'm sure he will totally start taking his medication for his bi-polar disorder, get a job, and start coming home in the evening because he never had a father figure" And a week later..."Oh, he was overwhelmed and freaked out?!? He tried to kill you?! I never would have believed it!" "You are so much better off without him." My thoughts: What the fuck? Why am I supposed to feel bad for this chick that purposely got pregnant by her unstable boyfriend thinking that would be the thing to get him to marry her? She makes $8 an hour, lives with her parents, and likely does drugs. I'm supposed to feel bad, but don't. This sort of self-victimization that I see every day makes me ill. I'm a Bitch because I don't feel bad for people that create their own problems.
I'm not a man-hater. Most of my friends are men. I'm even happy married. I hate baby showers, shopping, and squealing. I am secure enough in my femininity to go camp, change a tire on a car, and be a member of the NRA.
I'm a Heartless Bitch because I am confident and not crippled by the need to make everyone happy or to make everyone like me. I actually like myself.
Country: United States
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