Edie
I have never felt the need to be defined by convention or social expectation. I don't need external approval to feel good about myself; I know who I am, know my capabilities and accomplishments, and don't need outside validation to appreciate them. I don't need a baby or career or a relationship to "define me" or to be whole and happy. If I can't be happy alone, I won't be happy with someone else.
My choices are exactly that -- mine, and I refuse to live a life of regret. Yep, I make stupid choices sometimes -- I fix what I fuck up, clean up and keep going. I have no time to wallow (or tolerate) being the victim, thanks.
While I am happy to help those who want to improve their lives, I won't sign up to fix perpetually broken people (professional victims), and I have no tolerance for willful ignorance. I don't have time (or patience) for someone that chooses to govern their lives with poor thinking or emotional chaos. Welcome to the world of not my problem. I enforce a No Drama Zone around me at all times, which comfortably encases my No Bullshit Zone.
Personal responsibility is my mantra. However that does not include being responsible to fulfill someone's unexpressed expectations. I own my problems and keep short accounts -- if I have a problem with you, you'll know it almost as soon as I do, and in an adult relationship, I expect the same respect in return (or I just don't need that relationship).
Does all this make me a Heartless Bitch? Yes. I measure true kindness and friendship in blunt honesty, and not everyone wants to hear that. But I'd rather say AND hear that kind of honesty than anything else.
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