Nic
I live life for myself. I'm often alone, but never lonely, a concept
most people don't quite comprehend.
I will not compromise my happiness, desire, or education for a boyfriend. I
have had a few potential relationships end because of my desire to see the world
(and live in other countries) and the guy's desire to do fuck all with his life
except live as if he's still at college until he gets married.
I do not compromise my health or my body; this IS the 21st century - safe
sex or no sex, I don't care how much you love or want me, and even if I'm blind
drunk I'm still not giving in. Asking about how many men I've been with is not
the same as asking if I've been tested, and only one of those questions is going
to get an honest answer. I strive to have no regrets in the sense that I
acknowledge my own wrongs and shortcomings and try like hell to learn from them
(and not repeat them...too often!). Everything has to be a learning experience,
otherwise I'd just dwell on the downsides. I have learned embrace the negative
aspects of myself because they're mine. I might work through them, I might
not.
I always stand up for my convictions. I'm intelligent enough to listen to
counterarguments and know enough about both sides to tell you why I know you're
wrong. I always stand up for myself and for my true friends, but have no
problems letting them know when they're being stupid about relationships or
anything else - and they do the very same for me. I love my family, but again,
can not let them compromise my contentment. My mother, coming to grips with the
idea that the 'marriage and kiddies' life isn't my cup of tea (and I'm 26, so I
don't see what the rush is even if I was for it), angrily declared, 'I don't
care if you don't get married, but you HAVE to have a baby!'. Maybe it's me, but
I was horrified. Why on earth would I bear a child if I didn't want to be a
mother? Amazing.
I am, by profession, an educator. This tends to filter out into my personal
life. I am vocal about gender and sexuality issues and misinformation. I want my
female students and friends (and citizens at large, I suppose) to understand the
power and potential that they possess. I want women to know themselves and
discover their own strengths and identities; I don't want them to simply become
what they think they're supposed to be, what they get from music videos,
commercials, our so-called news, SEX AND THE CITY (I loathe that fucking show)
and all the other crap we're bombarded with on a daily basis. At the same time,
I think men need to refocus as well. I want young men and women to grow up
respecting each other and themselves, not blaming each other.
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