Melantha
For years I had so called bad dating experiences and failed
friendships with certain women. I was never on anyone's level. Men think I am
too aggressive. Hell, I would call it being assertive. I spoke when I needed to
and I still took care of these fools, but at the same time they wanted to keep
my mouth shut. With women, I am not into the "lazy woman" routine - looking
for a man to save me. I enjoy men's company but I don't obsess over them. They
look at me like I am crazy when I say I don't believe marriage is for all women
and men, and I don't believe in it for myself. Their mouths open wide and
their attitudes change towards me. And then they tell me to tone it down.
I used to try to live by the world's standards as a submissive woman, but I
can only do it to a certain degree. I am a woman who is strong and I refuse to
live by other's standards. I believe I am a good person and I am also giving but
I won't take shit either. People in general don't like that. Even some women
that I talk to and I tell them to make your own life so when a man does see you
he sees your worth and what you can bring to the table. They look at me and say
I just need a baller or a military man to take care of me. It is the "save a ho"
routine. They get mad when I tell them they are better than that.
I used to try to follow that routine but I couldn't. God made me a certain
way. I now have started to love me truly and I don't live by peoples' standards.
Yeah, I can be a Bitch and knock a fool out when I have to, but with my own
gender it is hard developing a friendship with women on my level or close to it.
So on both sides it is crazy for me at times but I refuse to adjust my life for
anyone.
Men think I should tone it down, but I don't give a damn, when you are
wrong you are wrong. I voice my opinion and keep moving. I believe you can be a
strong woman as well as a nurturing woman at the same time with your own
opinions. It is not about male bashing to me. I have noticed with real
secure men they love a strong woman and when two strong people get together the
relationship is more fulfilling. These days most of us link to insecure people
that try to bring you down. That was my problem before. Now I feel so free and
liberated.
As a woman you have to control your own situations and not let people
invalidate you. Stop letting the world tell you you are weak and can't do it.
Women and Men are different, yes; we all know this but we are strong in
different ways. We have to stop the "let me have a bunch of babies and get on
welfare and wait for that man Captain Ho to save you".
Stop being lazy! Women we have more power than what the world tells us. Use
it. I am, and I am loving it. I know I am still a good person.
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