Lisa
I am a Heartless Bitch. I don't let my emotions run my life, expect others to solve my problems, or play relationship games. I do take responsibility for my actions, demand accountability, speak my mind, and research everything I can to improve my life and my mind.
I have found through life experience that emotions can be a crutch. That left me stuck because emotions are unavoidable. My solution was to put my emotions to work. If I am angry, I use that fuel to get things done. If I am sad or depressed, I use that emotion to allow myself time to slow down and give myself the attention I need. When I am happy, I enjoy it.
I am most happy when I am able to solve my own problems. Whether my garage door won't shut or I can't seem to find a job I like, I don't play the blame game. I figure out what I can do to make things better and then do it. While I may ask others opinions on what to do, particularly those who have successfully dealt with a similar problem in the past, I don't expect or want them to tell me what to do. If I am going to be the person most affected by the decision, then I believe I should be the one to make it.
One decision I chose to make is to quit playing relationship games. Yes, I used to play them, but I stopped. I have no need to be fake. I want to enjoy my life, not think about how to counterattack my partner after he flirts with another woman. If I don't like what he is doing, I will tell him, get his story, give him one chance to show me that it not a pattern, and then decide whether I want to stay in the relationship.
While all this makes my life much better, I do fuck up from time to time. When I do I admit it and do my best to make amends. When I was say I am going to call a friend and don't, I don't make excuses, I apologize and buy him/her a drink the next time we go out. If I really fuck up and do something like talk about a friend to another friend who doesn't like him/her, I deserve what I get. If he/she doesn't want to be my friend any longer after I apologize for my moment of weakness, I don't blame them. I move on with my life.
Sometimes I have lost a friend or two not because of my fuck up, but because he/she can't tolerate someone who doesn't like and dislike the same things they do. I have my own opinion, and I do not back down simply because someone doesn't like it. If someone has a convincing argument with facts, I will consider it and respect that person. Name calling, whining, and similar tactics just make me realize that I should dump that friendship as soon as possible. People don't need to like my opinion to be my friend, but they need to respect it.
My opinions deserve respect not because they are mine, but because I actually use my brain before I speak. I base my opinions off of facts and how they relate to my values. I value human life, but I have seen no research that shows an embryo to be a human, therefore I have no objection to embryos being used in research. I believe that the only way to have a solid opinion is by backing it up with facts.
I am a Heartless Bitch. I don't allow myself to be watered down, stepped on or patronized. I seek knowledge and enlightenment, not approval (Although I am seeking approval to HBI, it is only to learn and share with others who actually use their minds. Where else can I find so many people like that in one place?)
Country: United States
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