Nadine
Some need relationships because it makes them feel whole, whereas I
am wary of choosing incorrectly: familiarity breeds contempt. I watch my
darling, darling parents together after 31 years of marriage and conclude theirs
was a match made in hell, and pregnancy. Becoming a Heartless Bitch was
only the natural result of dealing with a self-effacing, martyr-like mother
whose 'helpful' suggestions included comments such as:
"If you ever get over a size 10, I am not buying clothes for you any more."
(She was serious on this one, by the way.)
"You can't use tampons! Only sluts use those and besides, you'll get
an INFECTION."
...I won't even get started on my father, who thinks the worst thing to
ever happen to the West were the '60s. Those who think, by virtue of their sex,
that they are either inferior or superior, particularly when taking certain
variables into account, are completely fucking stupid. Being a beautiful
woman doesn't make you fabulous, and being a wealthy man, doesn't, either.
What you contribute to the world, the lives of those close to you, and
YOURSELF, are the only bits that ought to mean anything. And if you can't
be a Heartless Bitch AT LEAST once in a while, then as a woman, you're pretty
much fucked. "Oh yes dear, that's fine... I can do that for you.
Would you like me to do 40 million more things for you today?
CERTAINLY!"
Apparently, my thinking this leads me to get referred to as "The Daria of
Our Group" and a "Heinous Bitch" (and yes, they did cull that line from 10
Things I Hate About You), intimidating and bitter.
"Don't tell Nadine, she'll get on her high-horse about it."
"God, Nadine, do you, like, hate EVERYTHING?"
"All you do is rant, I swear!"
Being a Heartless Bitch means cutting my hair short when they don't like
it, refusing to shave my legs when they don't like it, and calling ALL sorts of
stupid shit out. Are you waxing lyrical about equality while also begging
the man to kill the spider for you? Then you're an idiot. Are you saying, "I'm
not a feminist, but..."? Then you're an idiot. If you think feminism is a
dirty word, then you're an idiot. Double-standards and stereotypes are enough to
make steam come out of my ears, and so is man-hating.
A classmate said, of another classmate's work, to his face:
"Well, I don't want to read ANOTHER novel about a self-indulgent
male." And I'm sitting there thinking HER novel is the most pompous,
self-indulgent thing I've had to endure in months. My response?
Pointing out that hating self-indulgence is a kind of puritanical response to
selfishness in general, and the quality of the story and writing are what
matters. Being dismissive one paragraph in? Fucking pointless.
I seem to spend a lot of time starting sentences with, "Don't be mistaken,
I'm a shrew--not a whore." I write my Bitchhood into everything, every
piece of angry, shitty feminist poetry I come up with (some of which is in the
line below, which IS original), and I am always the one coming up with the
remark that sounds like a snap. Don't play dumb with me! Don't play helpless or
remind me you don't like other women because they're "too Bitchy".
Self-hatred go away!
I'm a Heartless Bitch because I don't hate myself, and I don't apologise
for it.
Country: Australia
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