Kate
I'm a Heartless Bitch because I have to be if I wish to be
successful. As a female in the sciences, I find that men do not take me or my
abilities seriously. It is demeaning when men refuse to believe I know what I am
doing or seem to be surprised when I'm not a general ditz and fuckwit. Yes, I do
change my own oil. No, this is not my boyfriend's computer. No thank you, I can
pith my own frogs.
Men don't tend to understand polite reminders (I know some do, but I don't
have the pleasure of working with/for them). I am a Heartless Bitch because I
tell people when there is a problem, and I am willing to escalate until the
problem is solved, even if it means (*gasp*) not everyone will like me. I am not
afraid of negative labels (Bitch, ball-breaker, whore, dyke, harpy) if that's
what what I get when I force people to think.
I am also unwilling to have men accept me on the condition that I'm "really
more of a Guy anyway." In no way does showing aptitude and interest in typical
"Guy Things" diminish my own femininity--it is something which only I have the
authority to define. In the same vein, other women may not define my femininity.
I am under no obligation to be enslaved by beauty, modesty, dependency,
motherhood, or sexual orientation. Not only do I not need to comply with others'
values, but I also have no reason to put up with any shit about my own.
If I do not seem very militant, it is because aggressive confrontation
rarely yields the results I want. A surprising amount can be achieved by direct
and firm conversation combined with logic and common sense... and if these don't
work, then there is no reason for me to continue to waste my time.
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