Eco
After fairly recently getting out of a 71/2 year relationship with an emotional abuser of the narcissistic persuasion I've come to a lot of conclusions about life. So much easier to think clearly when he's not around to play with the smoke and mirrors.
I don't think I would have labeled myself a Heartless Bitch if I had not come across this website, but after reading and recognizing so many little things about both him, myself and others I've come across in life I can't think of any better name for who I've grown to become.
Won't go into details on the relationship (possible rant in future though) but basically - the emotional abuse made me stronger out of necessity - for lack of being able to trust him since I never knew when he'd stoop to suddenly changing plans or even sabotaging himself to throw me off.
Somebody had to keep the ship afloat and he wasn't helping... He contributed plenty of questioning, criticizing and sabotaging though, which was what eventually threw him off the ship.
I was an easy target when we met, it would be silly to not admit it.
Though, after making up my own rules on how to respond to his mind games and making self-sufficiency my sanity-saver I dare say I'm the one who came out of it as the winner.
(His way of seeing the world - someone always came out winning. After this win, I officially retire from the race and will happily reside in peace with my equals.)
Now, my plan is simply to continue to take responsibility for myself and what I make of my life and anyone who wants to take part will have to do just that - namely Take Part, not take over or become part of, unless of course I deem them worthy of becoming part of and invite them in.
Country: Sweden
Yes! I want to read more from Real Life Heartless Bitches
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