Dori
I'm a Heartless Bitch because I know that being one doesn't mean being needlessly cruel, hating men or walking around thinking your shit don't stink. It's about being in control of yourself and your life, embracing your intelligence and using it instead of acting helpless or dumb to stroke a man's ego, having a spine and standing up for yourself. It's about knowing that you are a smart, strong, ambitious and worthy individual, and acting accordingly, as I do.
I loathe stupidity. I don't think I need to elaborate on that.
I value honesty. If I have a problem with someone, I will confront them. Talking behind someone's back won't solve the problem. I'm not perfect though, and I do gossip, but if someone confronts ME I won't deny it. I always prefer if someone has a problem with me, they will say it to me, and not behind my back, so we can work it out.
I am a supervisor at Tim Horton's. (I know that's not the best job, but I love it) and I once gave a written warning to a co-worker. Afterwards, she refused to speak to me for 3 days, and told everyone who would listen what a Bitch I was. Eventually she realized she was being immature and we talked it out, and she said she didn't say anything at all so she wouldn't end up flipping out on me. I told her I would have preferred if she just called me fucking Bitch and got it over with, because then at least I knew where she stood. That's the way I feel, that you should just say what you mean.
I used to be a very passive-aggressive person, until I realized what a pathetic waste of space I was becoming; never standing up for myself, doing what I was told, and secretly hating the people around me. It got bad enough that I turned to self-injury to deal with everything I couldn't handle. But I eventually learned to go after what I want, say what I'm thinking and never back down. I have built up so much self-esteem, and self-respect and I don't hurt myself anymore. When I feel bad, I do something to fix the situation.
The final thing is that I don't justify myself to anyone. The only people I need to be accountable to are myself, and God. I no longer live to please everyone else. That doesn't mean that I'm being an inconsiderate asshole to the people around me, but I decide what I want to do, and I do it.
Country: Canada
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