Deanna
My Personal HB Manifesto:
I WILL remember that being polite and standing up for myself do not exist
on opposite sides of the interpersonal relationship continuum.
I WILL be brave enough to stand up for injustices, remembering that if I
don't, the undefeated They will come for me, and no one will be left to stand up
for me.
I WILL remember that as a human, I have human failings and insecurities,
but I shall not endeavor to concoct failings and insecurities just to put others
at ease, or to elicit sympathy from others.
I WILL seek out self-confidence in myself by nurturing that which I'm good
at or proud of, and remember that it is not my God-given right to have others
make me feel good about myself.
I WILL remember to make the distinction between "being ladylike", which is
a social construct, and having manners, which is something everyone, both male
and female, should cultivate.
I WILL pull myself up off my duff when life kicks me to the curb and not
look for others to blame when the chips are down.
I WILL remember the sacrifices and struggles of the multitudes who went
before me to secure for me the rights and freedoms I too often take for
granted.
I WILL refuse to honor humility until it stops being used as a tool for the
establishment power structure to keep my head hanging low and my mind empty of
the questions that could lead to further empowerment.
I WILL remember the difference between fighting for something and fighting
just to look tough.
I WILL not fall for sociopolitical ideologies that seek to divide, but look
for that which looks out for the citizens' best interests.
I WILL remember that "feminism" is not a dirty word and claim it as my own,
because I admire the Elizabeth Cady Stantons and Susan B. Anthonys of the world
and I will not turn my back on them because some despicable personalities want
to wrest me away from that legacy of feminism as a noble and sensible
cause.
I WILL strive to live up to the examples of the Heartless Bitches who were
deemed worthy enough of the name.
I love being a woman. I relish it. I also love freedom, and
being strong-willed, and bipartisan use of common-sense rules on how we as
fellow human being should treat each other, and other ideas that have sadly
become far too revolutionary for the reactionaries to process. So when I
landed upon this website and breathed in the atmosphere of individuals who were
either similarly-minded, or who would have the confidence in their own opinions
to respect mine, or who have enough cerebral fortitude to posit an intellectual
reasoning behind why they might disagree with me, I felt at once that I was
Finally Home.
Finally, a place online for women to converge that hasn't been dumbed down,
that doesn't offer fluffy cotton pseudoarguments under the guise of substantive
discussion. Finally, a place online where women can hash out their
frustrations without being weighed down by them. Finally, a place online
heavily populated by women, that isn't virulently anti-woman. Finally, a
place online where women aren't offered a deus ex machina dressed up in the
costume of Pop Psychology or The Blame Game. And finally, a place online
for women, and fans of women, that does not growl or whimper but asserts itself
with an intelligent voice, taking Teddy Roosevelt's advice to "talk softly but
carry a big stick" but using their intellects and high reasoning abilities as
their "big stick".
Also, to rectify bulletin points 4 and 12 in the above listed manifesto to
create one last bulletin point: I will endeavor to not confuse learning
from the Heartless Bitches and taking from them the inspiration to stand on my
own two feet as much as humanly possible, and leaning upon the HBs to the point
where they end up either crushed or suffocated by my weight as I seemingly
forget that my legs do work and that I can stand on my own two feet.
Because there is nothing honorable about false pretenses, and there is nothing
that screams "false pretenses" than someone who claims to be a HB yet cannot
figure out how to elicit from within their own inner strength to pull themselves
through whatever life offers up.
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