Melissa
I'm a Heartless Bitch because I believe in brutal honesty, taking
responsibility for my own happiness, and making my own way through
life.
I haven't always made the wisest decisions when it comes to
relationships. I started dating a 23-year-old divorced guy who had a kid
when I was 19. Sadly, at 19 I was not the Heartless Bitch that I am
today. My ex-husband was a nice guy, but did not have his shit
together. After a few years, I realized that I was selling myself short by
being with this pothead who expected me to handle paying the bills, carrying the
health insurance, cooking, cleaning the house, and taking care of HIS son while
he sat around getting high and playing video games.
Since I cannot stand people who whine about how miserable they are and yet
do nothing to change it, I left. I could not have made a better
decision.
I moved away from my hometown. I got my own apartment in a new
city. I got a job doing something I love. I've made friends. I
started over. I took life by the horns (how cliché!) and made it what I
wanted it to be.
For the first time in my life, I am living on my own and supporting
myself. I couldn't be happier. There is no better feeling in the
world than knowing that you can make it alone. I truly have self-esteem
for the first time in my life -- not an ego boost that I got from the boy du
jour, but real self-esteem that I gained from getting out, taking
responsibility, and making it on my own.
I used to hop from loser to loser, hoping that one of those guys would make
me feel better about myself. None of them did. I finally, at the age
of twenty-six, "GOT IT," and when I got it, I DID something about my
situation. I don't look back on my past mistakes with regret -- if I
hadn't gone through it all, I probably would never be as happy, strong, and
independent as I am today.
There are a lot of people who may look down on me for not "standing by my
man," but I never signed on to be anyone's mother. Life is too short to
sit around Bitching and wallowing in your own misery because of some loser guy
who wants you to wipe his ass for him.
Friends come to me now for advice (me! the girl with the failed
marriage! This is hilarious to me!), and I pretty much tell all of them to
either take responsibility for themselves or quit Bitching. If you're
miserable, change what's making you miserable. If you say you "can't"
change it, you are not only full of shit but you need to quit whining.
You'll get no sympathy from me.
I am not a mean person. I'm a very kind person who has a very low
tolerance for bullshit, whiners, and people who will not grow up and take
responsibility for their own lives.
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