Franka
To be honest, I'm not sure that if I hadn't discovered your website
I'd ever have gone out of my way to describe myself as a 'Heartless Bitch', but
I read your list of HB attributes and I found myself laughing and agreeing with
every one of them.
In fact I only came to your website in the first place because I'd called a
friend of mine in an email 'a Heartless Bitch' - because she'd refused to
baby-sit for her sister who had to go to the doctor's - and my friend was really
offended. I'd spent time with American women who called each other 'HBs' and I
thought the ironic qualities of the term were well understood. But my friend's
reaction made me question myself. I turned to the internet to find support for
my position. And here I am.
The funny thing is that while you have helped me to recognise that I am in
fact a HB, I also realise that my friend is absolutely not a HB. She's always
trying to please people, and be nice, which is why I was so surprised when she
put her foot down and refused to baby-sit her sister's whining little bastard.
Then I jokingly called her a HB. And she burst into tears - or at least sent me
an email back which sounded like she'd burst into tears.
So what are my HB qualities? You know, I just try to be direct and honest
with people. I do not set out to be nasty or offensive, but I do not see the need to dress up the truth with pretty words. I have 'lost' several boyfriends
because I was honest about certain aspects of their personal hygiene. And I have
'lost' several girlfriends because I was honest about their silly,
self-defeating, manipulative, pathetic behaviour.
SIMIA DIABOLICA is Portugese for 'evil female ape'. This is how I was described by a Portuguese ex-boyfriend who I foolishly went to live with in his Third World Portuguese village many years ago. I was for him an evil female ape because I refused to wear dresses all the time - I'd wear them occasionally - and wouldn't let him put his penis in my bottom and wouldn't sit there and not say anything when his revolting relatives started praising the good old days of the fascist dictatorship etc
That's about it, really.
Country: Germany
Yes! I want to read more from Real Life Heartless Bitches
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