Dana
"Asshole-ism [yep, I just made a new word] and stupidity are
diseases. For some people it's just built in, and there is no help past
that extent. For others there is a simple cure. LEARN SOMETHING -
preferably before you spread the disease. Read a book or the newspaper,
watch the news, and if you're going to debate, have a solid argument and a few
non-stupid brain cells with which to argue your point. If not a cure, this
might help you APPEAR less stupid, and you might be more sociably accepted
which, in turn, might make you a little less asshole-ish."
This is a snippet from a conversation that I had with some harebrained
woman who was stressing out the fact that people in our pool league didn't like
her. She's beautiful and nice ... Hmm, it appears the list stops
there. Men are attracted to her ... until they TALK to her.
I may be blonde, but I don't have to act ditzy to get attention. Guys
don't think that it's cute and women would rather die than be seen within 1,000
feet of a "Jessica" moment. Granted, everyone has those moments, but when
it's all the time?
I have opinions. I don't stuff them down other people's throats and I
expect the same. I can debate about something, using my logic and examples
to back up my opinions. I certainly don't expect to win anyone to "my
side" because, frankly, I don't care. My opinions are just that -
MINE.
I find people who call me a Bitch humorous. Yes, I can be mean - to
those stupid enough to deserve the wrath. For the most part, I think
people that call Heartless Bitches nothing more than "Bitches" do not understand
the full concept and/or wish to have the "Heartless" title for themselves.
They simply don't realize they CAN.
It's scary, but I had to answer "Yes" to SIX of the Red-Flags about my
dad. I should have known that all along though. He is 50 years old,
and his girlfriend is 19. He has said before that he goes for younger
women because older women are more set in their ways and younger women are
easier to "mold." I have lived my entire life with someone of the kind I
have now come to thoroughly dislike. Needless to say, my dad and I have
our issues, as he doesn't embrace my Heartless Bitchiness with any amount of the
fervor that I do.
I have been ridiculed for my weight and looks, and for a LONG time, that
bothered me and I became one of the complainers that did nothing about it.
To this day, I still have done nothing about physically. What I have done
about it was emotional and mental. FUCK what other people think about
me? Whom do I need to impress besides myself?
My dad always told me if I lost weight, guys would be all over me.
Problem #1: Who the FUCK needs a man to "be all over" them?
Problem #2: If they don't want me now, but want me after I gain a nice
body, then what were they after in the first place? Surely not my brains
and sense of humor. Surely not someone they can carry an intellectual
conversation with. So ... fuck them. When I find someone that loves
me for who and what I am, THEN I might consider change. But for now, I'm
happy with myself and anyone who's not -- I don't need in my life to bring me
down.
For the first time ever, I have become more comfortable with myself and
love me for me. Now when I get smart ass remarks from people about my
weight, I laugh it off, and if a clever comeback comes to mind, I deliver -- to
chuckle to myself as I watch their mouth drop. I, admittedly, have been
known to use the line "Yea I'm fat, but you're ugly and I can diet."
Loving myself -- everything about me, and accepting the things that I
called "flaws" has enabled me to embrace the Heartless Bitch in me to the
fullest. I hope that I, among others, can help all the other women out
there get some backbone and embrace their own inner Heartless Bitch.
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