Kathleen
Well, because my stomach is churning right now, out of such fierce
recognition. OH. MY. GOD.
Okay, the first rant I read, about women who demean and verbally abuse
former partners, lay the blame on them is such a righteous, obnoxious, unaware, and unconscious fashion post-split. I mean, one day he's all great, and then,
when it hasn't worked - perhaps just because it was not the right
relationship?? I mean, it sucks to admit, but ADMIT IT ALREADY, maybe you
were not his FUCKING CUP OF TEA, or if you want to be REALLY honest,
perhaps he wasn't YOURS - okay what was I saying? oy yes: so the minute it
is over, he becomes a lame-brained repressed A-hole who "will one day realize
what he has missed, and he just doesn't have his shit together, and he has no
feelings". Um don't you just really mean no feelings for YOU? But
that would entail actually feeling your own feelings for 2.5 seconds, so yeah,
hardly surprising that under the guise of "highly independent woman" this
prototypical victim is really harboring intense rage over stuff she refuses to
deal with honestly.
And I am SO sick and tired of people who have judged me for being so upset
and screwed up and depressed and enraged, the whole time I WAS WORKING THROUGH
MY OWN CRAP AS HONESTLY AND RESPONSIBLY AS I COULD, well, now that my edges have
all softened up, and I don't indulge in hating and blaming my previous partners,
but just try to keep the faith that love will come when and as it may into my
life, and it will be clean and real and without all kinds of weirdness - well,
all those people, those rational controlled people who judged, now want my
sympathy - just like Greentea's cousin. Man, that hit such a raw
note. Do I ever get that. There is TOTALLY a price to pay for being true
to yourself. People are threatened by that, and rejecting, and cold.
But then, when they finally wake up for a second and realize that possibly, just
possibly, they might have something to do with their own currently shit
circumstances, who do they turn to? Who suddenly has a good ear, and
understands these things?
You know what? I now know that being a Heartless Bitch, in the spirit
and context of this site, is crucial.
We must collectively gain support to repudiate and reject and ridicule all
the hypocritical "strong and independent" victims, female or
otherwise.
I mean,. why can't people just be truthful and say I screwed up. Or maybe,
"Wow. Maybe I really WAS unlovable"? How about that????
Would that qualify me for membership? If I went around saying,
perhaps you behaved in an unlovable fashion, and that is why he left
you.
Perhaps you have no business loving another person, BECAUSE YOU DO NOT KNOW
HOW. You want all the trinkets and prizes, and you never take ownership of your
own tendency toward such garden variety mental habits and attitudes that some of
us are more won't to term EMOTIONAL ABUSE.
Ahhh, that felt great. Now sign me up so I can keep ranting and buy
some product, ya bunch of Heartless Bitches.
Luv,
Kathleen
Country: Canada
Yes! I want to read more from Real Life Heartless Bitches
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