Shannon has learned that being a Heartless Bitch
doesn't necessarily mean being Selfish...
I am a self-professed 'selfish bitch'. I was drawn to your site for
number of reasons. First and foremost, it is a site dedicated to the
strength of women. I am 24 and graduated from my second post-secondary
institute last year. My life has changed dramatically in the past year
- all for the better. Volumes have been written on the subject of
puberty and the havoc wreaked on the psychological state of young
women. However, I've gone through more emotional changes lately than I
ever experienced in my teens.
What I'm trying to say is that I've passed through many stages, mainly
in my own mind. I've gone from being entirely dependant (emotionally
and financially) on my parents, namely my dad, to being totally
independant in a matter of months. I think my self-confidence has
stretch marks from growing too quickly!
This experience hasn't been without casualties, though. With that
sudden flood of self-confidence came selfishness. I felt I no longer
needed the wonderful man I was with. I was outgrowing him too quickly
for him to be able to catch up. I was so wrapped up in myself that I
didn't realize his life was stagnating - because of me. He gave up a
job and a comfortable life on the other side of the province to move to
Ottawa and be with me. I know he sounds spineless but this story has a
happy ending. After so brutally stomping all over his heart, he picked
himself up, dusted himself off, and made inroads in his field of study
and landed himself a good job. He took the opportunity to step back and
look at me from a distance and see that I was only a girl; not his
life. I also took a step back and looked at myself. Yech! I was a
Heartless Bitch in the truest sense of the word. I've made some
important changes without giving up my independence or sacrificing my
self-esteem.
We have recently started dating again, this time as equals. I have
maintained my bitchiness and he has started giving some back. His
motto:'Better to give than to receive!'
What inspired me to write this rambling message was the picture of your
'partner' (not the one of his butt, although it is a nice one!). Even
though you are the HBI president and resident Web mistress (and a damn
good one at that), you are confident enough to show a somehwat more
sensitive side by including him in your site.
Read about more "Real Life Heartless Bitches"
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