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  1. Arthur Deane March 14, 2007 12:02 pm

    Hello again ladies. This is just a commment as to why your site was a life saver. I use to do all that nice guy B.S. thinking it was the right way to grab a woman. It was really manipulation once I “got it”.

    I understand much better how to talk and handle women now in all my interactions. I am far more agressive in my intentions(ok bad word more like take initative) .

    Once you explained why being nice doesnt get you laid, I started to go out and talk to ladies. Of course because of social conditioning, many said it wasnt true. But after ten minutes and them getting themselves and me drinks the truth came out all the time.

    Now I am not here to worship or grovel before you ladies. But I am here out of respect and thanks. I found out that I was a very stingy and arrogant person. And farrr worse than those jerks or bad boys.

    I decided to go improve myself and change my life. Now a lot of females still think im nice, even when I tell them Im not but overall your article woke a blind ,sleeping man up and you ahve my respect and thanks

  2. Mato March 14, 2007 10:25 pm

    Well, having read some articles on the HBI site refering to the “nice guy dilemma” (including the one portrayed in this post), it shouldn´t come as a surprise that men would profit (in a good way) from it.

    It is, I guess, the result of HBI´s “no bullshit” policy from either gender.

    Since it provides a critical view on “unhealthy” behaviours of, in this case, the male psyche (though I don´t think it only applies exclusively to that male population), the reaction would be either, as you mentioned, denial or “breakthrough” by the ones who relate to it.

    The funny thing is that, given HBI provides this “enlightment” from a feminine point of view (obviously) in accordance with women empowerment issues, it ends up (in some cases) empowering males as well, just by showing that by accepting themselves as they are, they can disregard (if not completely) social influences and pressures (by the patriarchy and other factors) and acknowledge their shortcomings.

    In other words, accept and love themselves, stand up to their peers, and change the way they “perceive” women, not as a sex object, but as what they are, humans.

    Saludos.

  3. Natalie P. March 14, 2007 10:39 pm

    I couldn’t have said it better myself, Mato. “Equality” after all, applies to both genders by its very definition. Socialized gender roles hurt men just as much as they hurt women.

  4. Mato March 15, 2007 2:55 pm

    Yeah, easier said than done though.

    Socialized gender roles are presented to everyone from a very early age and a takes enough maturity and a fair amount of “balls” (that was speaking in a gender oriented fashion, to give an example of how very present they are) to start the unlearning process since stereotyping is actually very common and not that unreasonable (analogy wise) in the human thinking process.