E-Mail 'How NOT to Apologize' To A Friend

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  1. Deanna February 1, 2008 5:06 pm

    Words to live by….

    Also, the list of deeds on #3? Whoo, how could a real friend (even if we’re talking online only here) do that to someone they consider a “friend”? That shit ain’t right, yo.

  2. Idabelle Fosse January 13, 2009 12:26 am

    a-the-fuck-men to that!!!! obviously you knew the creature from the exchange below as well.
    so today, while i was updating one of my social marketing pages, i found an invite from a man i was involved with in college when i was 16. he raped me, twice, and i have never had a conversation with him about it. at first, i didn’t feel anything. then i wrote to him, and got really angry as i read his replies. here is the exchange….

    ——— I wrote ————
    i knew eventually i would come across your face again. this was not something that i was looking forward to. you were an asshole to me, treated me like shit, and raped me. twice, and you fucking tried to friend me???? seriously???. i have been waiting a long time to tell you what i thought of you, you sorry ass shit.

    ——— he wrote ————
    Idabelle. I’m sorry it took so long for you to be able to say that and I truly hope that pain has not been a major obstacle in your relationship to the world. My past is one in which I wrestle with each day. I am now clean and sober which has given me insight, self forgiveness and humbleness; have two wonderful boys, age 5 and 3 and a great llife here. If you need to express any pain you think I have caused you; please feel free to do so; if that will help in your healing process, which I sincerly hope is your journey. Peace be with you

    ——— I wrote ————
    any pain that i THINK you might have caused me???? what kind of fucking bullshit is that? you scum sucking pig! you RAPED me. TWICE!!!! what kind of goddamn sorry ass program are you working? i surely hope that your sponsor reminds you about that 5th step, and the 9th step asshole. how dare you patronize me? and you have no idea how happy i am to know that you have forgiven yourself. that certainly makes amends doesn’t it. you fucking self centered, arrogant sorry ass panty waste! i feel sorry for your wife/partner and children.

    ——— he wrote ————
    I’m actually not in a program but I have been in therapy for several years. I don’t mean to patronize you. I’m sorry if it came across like that. If you need to continue to express your anger at me that’s ok. My personal email address is

    ——— I wrote ————
    i know it’s okay asswipe, i don’t need your fucking permission to feel my feelings or express them. you have always been in therapy and it clearly hasn’t done you alot of good. AA would never have let you get away with this shit, that’s why it works.

    ——— he wrote ————
    What I meant was that I wouldn’t block your emails from reaching me if you wanted to continue to write me

    ——— I wrote ————
    and i would want to do that why? you obviously can’t admit what you did to me was wrong. you can’t apologize for what you did and the pain you caused, you can’t take any fucking responsibility for yourself or your actions (obviously haven’t changed all that much, have you?) just cuz you stopped drinking doesn’t mean that you have changed in any way. no, i don’t want to continue with you asswipe, i have said my peace.