We have always fought…
June 11, 2013 | Filed Under Popculture, The Heartless Bitch Way | No Comments
Great article by Kameron Hurley on challenging the status quo and misogynistic narratives:
“Somebody needs to be the person who says something is wrong. We can’t pretend we don’t see it. Because people have been murdered and assaulted on street corners where hundreds of people milled around, pretending everything was normal.
But pretending it was normal didn’t make it so.
Somebody has to point it out. Somebody has to get folks to move.
Somebody has to act.”
“‘We Have Always Fought’: Challenging the ‘Women, Cattle and Slaves’ Narrative”, by Kameron Hurley
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You are NOT entitled to SEX – no matter how “nice” you are. GET OVER IT.
June 10, 2013 | Filed Under Relationships, Social idiocy | No Comments
Great article on Jezebel regarding the (unfortunately ongoing) issue of NICE GUYS (TM) – this time it’s about riffing the postings of these characters on OKCupid.
“Besides the near-universal sense that they’ve been unjustly defrauded, the great commonality among these Nice Guys is their contempt for women’s non-sexual friendship…..It’s a monumental overask to expect women to be gentle with the egos of men who only feigned friendship in order to get laid. “
AMEN.
And this is something we at HBI have been doing for YEARS:
“Nice Guys of OkCupid provides an excellent opportunity to reiterate a basic truth: there is no right to have sex….Mama firmly set me straight on the distinction between the right to want and the right to be given. Nice Guys need a similar sort of come-to-Jesus talk to disabuse them, once and for all, of their insistence that in a just and democratic society, hot young pussy ought to be distributed equally to every Tom, Harry, and Dick who demonstrates a minimal level of civility.“
Read the full article at Jezebel: No One is Entitled to Sex: Why We Should Mock the Nice Guys of OkCupid
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Intelligent, reasoned and ASTUTE commentary on the Steubenville Rapists
March 24, 2013 | Filed Under The Heartless Bitch Way | 2 Comments
Totally impressed that we are finally hearing a man tell other men that WOMEN DON’T OWE YOU AN EXPLANATION when they say NO.
And he’s absolutely right -the coaches, the parents, the school – the whole society FAILED in this affair and failed in teaching their kids the difference between RIGHT AND WRONG.
Steubenville Football & Rape Culture
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Rape Culture… it has to end
March 24, 2013 | Filed Under Politics, Popculture, Social idiocy, The Heartless Bitch Way | No Comments
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AWOL
November 6, 2012 | Filed Under The Heartless Bitch Way | No Comments
For those of you wondering where I’ve been and why the site isn’t updated so much regularly, it’s because I’m once again a full-time student and on the long hard road to my Ph.D….as such, I just don’t have a lot of time to maintain HBI… I’m leaving the site up since it has a wealth of resources that people still use, but updates will be rather infrequent as biology and neuroscience courses take precedence. I’m disabling the new member applications, but the BitchBoard will remain open for existing members. I still process store orders, and will endeavor over the holidays to start building out a new zazzle store so that I can afford to keep the site running. Apologies to those who can’t find their size in the existing store – I’m clearing out all the stock I currently have sitting in my basement, so that I can move everything entirely to zazzle.
heartlessly,
-Nataliep
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Too true…
September 5, 2012 | Filed Under Lifestyles of the Heartlessly Bitchy, Social idiocy, The Heartless Bitch Way | 2 Comments
A frightening, but all too common occurrence in this story. Thank-you to UnWinona for having the courage to post it.
http://unwinona.tumblr.com/post/30861660109/i-debated-whether-or-not-to-share-this-story
To quote a friend: “Men: Women in public do NOT owe you a conversation”… and to that I would add: They don’t even owe you a SMILE. They don’t owe you ANYTHING. And it is NOT your right to demand ANYTHING from a total stranger, just because she is a woman.
I remember as a teenager, coming off the dance floor at a club, SWEATING profusely, and heading to the bathroom when a guy came up and asked me to dance. I said, “Sure. I just need to go towel off in the bathroom and cool down for a minute or two…” and he replied, “You beautiful girls are all the same, Stuck up Bitches!” All because I wasn’t IMMEDIATELY available to him and responsive. CREEPS abound.
And in great juxtaposition, I present this piece, which challenges men to stand up to puerile, bullying, loutish behavior and harassment: https://www.facebook.com/notes/ernest-w-adams/a-call-to-arms-for-decent-men/10151960903620290
I do love this retort in his article:
“It’s hypocrisy. How come they get women-only clubs and we don’t get men-only clubs?” Because they’re set up for different reasons, that’s why. Male-only spaces are about excluding women from power, and making little boys whose balls evidently haven’t dropped feel special. Female-only spaces are about creating a place where they are safe from vermin.
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I’m now a fan of Captain Awkward
August 13, 2012 | Filed Under Lifestyles of the Heartlessly Bitchy, Relationships, Social idiocy, The Heartless Bitch Way | No Comments
Great responses to women asking for advice about “That Creepy Dude” in their social circles…
From the article:
Step 1: A creepy dude does creepy, entitled shit and makes women feel unsafe.
Step 2: The women speak up about it to their partners.
Step 3: It gets written off as “not a big deal” or “he probably didn’t mean it” or “he’s not a bad guy, really.” Any discussion of the bad behavior must immediately be followed by a complete audit of his better qualities or the sad things he’s suffered in the name of “fairness.” Once the camera has moved in and seen him in closeup as a real, human, suffering person, how can you (the object, always an object, as in “objectified,” as in a disembodied set of tits or orifices, or a Trapper Keeper, or a favorite coffee mug or a pet cat) be so cruel as to want to hold him accountable for his actions? Bitches, man.
Read the whole thing HERE
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Don’t try “negging” the kween…
April 7, 2012 | Filed Under Popculture, Relationships, Social idiocy, The Heartless Bitch Way | 2 Comments
I so love XKCD…
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Fighting back the girlgeek way…
March 29, 2012 | Filed Under Lifestyles of the Heartlessly Bitchy, Social idiocy, The Heartless Bitch Way | 1 Comment
What she Really said: Fighting Sexist Jokes the Geeky Way - Love it!
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It only takes a Girl
January 26, 2012 | Filed Under The Heartless Bitch Way | 1 Comment
Worth 4:09 minutes of your time….
I also encourage people to donate to CHES – a Canadian non-profit that spends 95% of donations on direct support of educating girls in Kenya and Tanzania.
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